If you are truly sad for your lover’s wife, you should end the affair.
In fact you may be just the latest in a long line of ego boosts that he obviously needs. If you are (un)lucky enough to have him eventually leave his wife you would always wonder…
Whatever the reason it’s unlikely that there will be a happy ever after as you’ll never ever be able to trust him.
And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth.
Here’s 21 reasons you should never have an affair with a married man.
You’ll look permanently tired through sleepless nights thinking of him with his wife. Even though he’s told you they don’t have sex any more. Having to listen to that old chestnut – his wife doesn’t understand him.
And you’ll definitely never see him on birthdays and Christmas. You will tire of hearing ‘if only I’d met you 10 years ago.’ 9.
My problem is our conversations are intoxicating, and our kisses, touches and lovemaking are like no other. Or do you think what others don’t know won’t hurt them?
Dear Can’t Stop: The problem with the rationale “what others don’t know won’t hurt them” is that, at some point, the truth usually comes out.
You find yourself going out less and less with friends, in case he can spare an hour to see you. Forget planning a nice romantic weekend away, there will always be some reason why it doesn’t happen. The awful cocktail of emotions when (not if) someone finds out about your affair – fear they’ll tell his wife, shame and, weirdly, some small relief.
Men who find out will think you’re an easy target for unwanted attention.
Because you are open about your lack of interest in sex, you should not become defensive if someone asks an ignorant question about it.