However if you’re still hanging often with the friend and this person will be reintroduced to the same circle, it might not be worth the uncomfortable times that lie ahead with everyone involved.
Overall, we agree it is a case-by-case situation and you should tread lightly.
If you know there were deep seeded feelings and the person is still on a pedestal in your friend’s eyes, we would say it’s really not worth pursuing.Ask about his friends…Was this a casual 3 month stint or was this something where years and years were invested?Can you imagine if one of them is thinking in the back of their mind that they would be open to trying again if their current circumstances were different, i.e.if they only were in the same location or if ever one of them broke up with their current partner.When I set out to explore this question for this piece, one of my own stories kept coming back to me.
I had a friend whom I’d known for almost six years.
We’re not saying that she has the deciding vote whether you proceed or not but we can tell you that by not having the conversation with her, your relationship with your girlfriend can go left quickly and you may have lost a friend you’ve had a lot longer than this relationship may last. For more advice from The Matchmaking Duo, visit their site or follow them on Facebook or Twitter.
A trustworthy, genuine boyfriend or girlfriend can often become your best friend.
If you were the unbiased party that both parties trusted when they were together or you were her listening ear and heard all of the wonderful things about him as well as the troubles in the relationship, you probably don’t want to touch that.
The reason is, she is going to accuse you or feel as if you had another agenda the entire time.
But if you’ve always been close, is this man even worth it?