Japan punts itself as being a very “homogenous” country.
They’ll often resort to saying something like, “That would be very difficult.”On the reverse side, you won’t often know when you get a real yes.This comes through in dating because Japanese girls are really flaky and often cancel at the last minute.NB: In our experience Japanese guys are far less likely to flake on dates.Japanese women tend to want to look, feel and be their best whenever they are on a date so expect cancellations when weather is bad or when she’s in a bad mood, or tired.You never know how big the language barrier is, and where exactly the gaps in vocabulary and grammar are, so let your gestures and facial expressions do as much of the work for you as possible.
Paul Eckman discovered that facial expressions for happiness, sadness, fear, surprise, anger, disgust are universal across all cultures all around the world.Unfortunately, just getting the basic meaning across can be challenging enough.You already know how important it is to keep communication simple, but in addition you want to make it interesting enough that even with no words at all, it’s worth paying attention to.Of course you often won’t know the answer, but always be prepared for the “dotakyan” or last minute cancellation, especially on first dates. Grace Says: If you’re a woman, you might have to suggest the first date.Martin says: There’s a trick question I often tell my (dating) clients: Q: When do you know if a Japanese girl will go on a date with you? Men assume foreign women are more outgoing and direct (which sucks when you aren’t).However, often times that’s because you mis-read her yes as a no.