But if your dream is to eventually find one guy to settle down with and grow old together, Swedish culture doesn't seem very compatible with that idea. Most people I know do long relationships, and if divorcing then very slowly with plenty of time for thinking and reconsideration.
To me, it's a good thing that people aren't legally constrained from breaking up.
We might not see this in society in the same way as a few hundred years ago but it's still there in western culture, see slut shaming and so such.
If you're also moderately attractive; create an account on various dating sites, clearly stating you're British.
Match with a few girls, chat with them to see if theyre girlfriend material, sleep with them and then take it from there. But also I think it's not that there is a lack of dating or sex to be found here, but that no one is really sure of what's going on for too long.
I wouldn't say that Swedes don't talk about their feelings, we just don't expect the conversation to have a certain outcome because of our actions. I do agree that 'dating' or whatever is much less formal in Scandinavia in the early stages, however, having lived practically all my life in Scandinavian countries and having recently moved to Canada.
Have fun with it and perhaps the Swedish way makes you uncomfortable, but then you know it's not for you. As a long term expat I can say that calling something Swedish in a condescending way is the pinnacle of swedishness.
In modern days we have just added more layers to it but the reason we agree to "date" is still because we want to sleep with someone.
"Dating" is just a way to make it a bit more acceptable that we give into desire and sexual attraction.
Swedes don't "date" the way you guys do, so you're kinda spot on with you analysis.
However, seeing as you're on reddit, you've probably heard of the Internet.
Most countries do it to some degree, but Swedes really mean it. Well, perhaps relationships, but only if they're at all in or near one, either coming or going.
We have a massive issue with our own culture and national identity at times. Oh, I didn't mean it in a condescending way, apologies if it came off that way. Angsty teenagers and second-chance-at-lifers excluded, I've never heard a Swede gripe about not being in a relationship unless they're actually interested in someone already.
And people appear to be a little hesitant to try to communicate and find out.