Over 41 million Americans have used online dating services to find a soul mate.
And many claim that it’s worked wonders for their love lives.
People with long profiles tend to be attached to every bit of information that’s included in them.
Solution: Get specific When you want to use an adjective to describe yourself, think of an anecdote or example that shows how you embody that trait and share that instead.
For example, if you are romantic, you might say, “I’m the type of partner who will plan a surprise weekend getaway to a cozy little B&B on the coast where we can snuggle in bed or watch the waves crashing on the shore.” Or if family is really important, you might write, “Nothing means more to me than spending the weekend cheering on my sons in their lacrosse games.” I always find it fascinating when a client either writes the entire profile about himself or who she’s looking for… My choice of pronouns is intentional: I’ve found, anecdotally, that more guys tend to write about themselves and don’t include much about the woman they’re seeking (except perhaps for “attractive”).
As you might have guessed, I’ve developed a few ideas of my own about where people often go wrong when writing their profiles.
I tend to see the same This is definitely the most common issue with dating profiles.
Some qualities are non-negotiable, of course, but if something is just a “bonus,” state it that way in your profile.
Or you might say, “I’m particularly drawn to people with dark hair, but I won’t turn away blondes or redheads.” going to have to cut that profile way down, knowing that sometimes the client isn’t going to take it very well.
Hand someone the camera when you’re out dancing and get a candid shot.
Make sure you also include one good full-body shot and one close-up of your face, but if you paid for a professional photo shoot, don’t put all eight of the “good” ones up.
take down that photo of you taken with your cell phone camera in a dirty mirror. All kidding aside, even blurry, unflattering, or poorly cropped photos can really detract from your profile.
Solution: Tell a story with your pictures I see way too many profiles where the writing is good, but the photos fall flat. Your photos tell just as much of a story about you as your written profile does.
Solution: Edit, edit, edit Here’s where a trusted friend — and, dare I say, a professional profile writer! Think about how you can say the same thing using fewer words.